Life, Parenting And Relationships

Buddy

Buddy

They are Better off!

That’s the reasoning of one Evil deranged mother who killed her Children gave to the Cops. A couple of days ago in my Hometown a Man who was going through a bitter Divorce, was convicted of Murder. I believe that Evidence was presented in Court that he said that if he can’t have his five years old Daughter then no one  can have her, just before throwing her off a Bridge to her Death. A year earlier a Mother in Largo going through a bitter breakup slammed her two years old son Jordan against the wall, knocking him out, stuffed his lifeless Body in a Black plastic Bag and dumped his Body in the Park next Door. The list goes on and on people going through the Meat grinder known as life, choosing to exact revenge by killing the Child of someone who is putting them through the hoops of fire. With the intention of dodging Justice they sit in a Courtroom through the entire Proceedings with a stupid distance Glare trying Bullshit the jurors that they are insane or were, the moment they comitted the Ghastly act of extinguishing their child’s life. All in the name of punishing the one who dumped them.

Is the Human Mind so frail that the first Pothole they encounter on the Road called Life causes them to flip. Or are the evil Minions that is within so powerful that all their power to reason and ability to make sound Judgements are no match and render rationality helplessly. If that is the case the greatest number of Prents have failed us, by not instilling in their Children that Life is not a Bed of Roses. Adversity is as much a part of Life as Happiness and Joy. Not instilling in your Children that they can’t always get what they want and that things aren’t always going to go your way is shortchanging their Development process. The Human Mind is a Tangled Ball of Spaghetti, if you don’t start unraveling that Ball as early as one year old the rest of your parenting job is one long uphill battle.

When my youngest child was one year old sitting in his Highchair having a fit by tossing his spoon on the Floor, I would remove him from the Chair and place him next to his spoon for him to retrieve his own spoon. After fifteen times of you picking up that spoon you are in his control. If you let them know early in Life that things aren’t always going to go their way they are winners so are you by eliminating future Tantrums and personality upheavals. It behooves me the amount of time we spend in training our Pets yet we allow our Children to Rough Ride us all the way from infancy to Teenagers. When they are successful in manipulating you they grow up fearless of Society and it’s Laws. That’s why they sit in the Courtroom with that empty Glare trying to Manipulate the Jurors trying to avoid punishment for throwing their own five years old child from a Bridge, onto that hard Concrete Pavement Below.

I am quite sure that his Parents thought they were great parents when he was growing up throwing all kinds of Tantrums when things didn’t go his way. They Loved him too much to have realized that Tantrums are early warning signs of abnormal behavior. Can you imagine the Rage  that engulfed him when he uttered those words if I can’t have her, no one will. He was evaluated by a Psychiatrist before Trial and one week before final Summation. Yet he sat there with that stupid Glare, hoping to Manipulate the Jurors the way he manipulated his Parents all his Life. Allowing your children to Manipulate you and wrapping you around their finger is weak Parenting. I am not advocating punishment, I am telling you that communication is the greatest patenting tool.

By you communicating with your Children and teaching them the Art of communication you are laying the Foundation of how they deal with adversity the rest of their Lives. Instead of flying off the deep end and acting irrationally they can talk things out and accept the things they can’t control or change, as in a breakup or Divorce. As Spock would say Communication teaches them to be Logical People. In many of my earlier Blogs I have stated that Society and Psychologist were unjust in blaming the Parents for everything a bad seed grow up and commits. Lately I am having second thoughts. Cultivating World Class Citizens is nothing short of being Gifted.

I remember when I was growing up, when I acted up and out my Mother would ask me were you Raised Up or Dragged Up. There is the difference. Which brings to mind ” as a Twig is Bent so shall it grow”. As a Teenager I was totally out of control, I was Hell Bent for no apparent reason. My Mother was not a Totalitarian, but she had Boundaries that I dared not cross without consequences. When I was fourteen She knew I operated on the fringes of the Law, She indoctrinated me about Crime and Punishment and the Juvenile Justice System. When my indiscretions mounted, like when I was still fourteen, She found an ounce of Marijuana in my Pocket. Her Paraphrasing was taunting, she said to me, I bet you think that you can get away with Murder.

By the time I got to be seventeen I knew that I didn’t want to spend one Day inside. She had turned my Life around before my eighteenth Birthday when all my childish indiscretions would be viewed as Adult Felonies. Today I work in a County Justice System where all the above mentioned Filicides sits in one of our Courtrooms with that that distance Glare. Here I realize the power of a Parent to change the Course of their Children’s Destiny, by being a Parent and not a Buddy. The Seminole killer was recorded complaining to his Parents how tough it was in there, while he is awaiting Trial for four Murders. His Dad’s reply don’t worry Son we got your back, we will get you out. After years of failure as Parents, they still continue on the same Path of not telling him about consequences. And that is my final Summation of all I have just mentioned. Being a Buddy to your Children is Copping out of your Responsibility of being a Parent, which lets them to believe that they can get away with Murder.

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Jackass Driving

Jackass Driving

Jackasses Driving is a practiced way of Driving. It’s a total disregard for safety, it’s breaking all the rules, it’s the mindless operation of a Vehicle. Jackass Driving is always Driving too fast, someone with a point to prove, that they are as good or better than Dale Earnhardt. Dale was my favorite Driver, he was calculating but he took too many risks and in the end caused his Demise. I guess that if you are a Professional Racecar Driver and you don’t take risks, you don’t win 🏁 Races. Driving like a Racecar Driver on our Roadways is nothing short of Flight of Fancies, a lost of reasons and reality. My first Job out of High School was Driving Taxi in Manhattan, that was a proving ground for Jackass Driving. I once covered the Distance of the Island in half an Hour in Rush Hour Traffic. That is Jackass Driving at it’s best, cops and EMT Drivers can’t do that.

I Booked an average of six Hundred Dollars Daily. It didn’t take me long to realize that I had to quit Driving like that if I wanted to keep my License. Keeping your License shouldn’t be the only motivation to Drive in a Civilized manner. Always weaving Traffic, Barreling through the slightest opening and always taking risks goes against the Fundamental principles of safe Driving. Highway Driving brings out the best in me,  that is where I Drive by the Book, Traveling at 70-80 MPH there are no second chances. In High Speed Driving vehicles Disintegrate, burst in Flames and sometimes ejects the entire Seat from the Vehicle, Driver and all. So I ask you why would someone take the Antics of City Driving onto the Highway, Driving like a Pizza Delivery Driver, to be more precise Driving like a Jackass.

Once I drove nine hundred miles to the Carolinas. On the way back I gave the Wheel to a Family Member to avoid the fatigue of Driving the Roundtrip. Never in my life have I experienced Anxiety and Stress than sitting in that Passenger Seat waiting to Die. He passed everything on I 75 all the way to New York, he made Chicken Salad out of the Traffic for nine hundred miles. If the Traffic flow was 80MPH he weaved his way through to the next traffic flow of 90MPH weaved his way through sometimes up to 100. Thirty years later I still ask myself where is the Fire and why didn’t I jumped from the Vehicle. That my friend is Jackass Driving at it’s best. Many times I thought about slapping him in the Head but that would only hurry our Demise. My Nerves were so shot I could have had a minor accident of my own in the passenger seat that needed to be Shampooed.

That was the last time I Drove with him, there were other family gatherings where we showed up in separate Vehicles. That is absolutely sad how many Maniacs like him are out there putting Lives at risk on a Daily basis. It never occurred to them that this type of Driving is Deadly until it’s too late. It was early afternoon, I was traveling on Rockaway Blvd behind Kennedy Airport. I came upon an Accident Scene that was like nothing I had ever seen before.  There were two halves of a Vehicle and a Lightpole separating them. Eyewitness accounts that the Vehicle was traveling in excess of 100MPH in a 45MPH Zone when it found the Lightpole, all four occupants were ejected, no survivors.

The bad part about all this is that I have witnessed so many Highway Fatalities in my lifetime, not reading about them, I should be Laying on a Couch and being prescribed Valium. Yet people would read my Blogs about safe Driving and go out there and becoming statistics of their own. That is the thing about Driving that I will never understand, people will take criticism about everything except their Driving, if you think I am lying the next time you are a Passenger, say to the Driver please slow Down. I have said that to one of my friends and he became Irate, yet I am not the one who Rolled the Vehicle on an exit Ramp. Jackass Driving is an Epidemic.

Four years old

When I moved to Florida I thought that Floridians were the worst Drivers in the World. Then I realized that there are few true Floridians, they all moved here from somewhere else. Which brings me to the stark reality that Jackass Driving is a World wide problem. People who can’t cross the street safely are behind the wheel thinking that their name is Dale. People who can’t multitask in the Kitchen without cutting off a finger, these same People are out here Driving like a Jackass, while multitasking on the Android, Heaven help us all. If I didn’t appreciate my Driving Privilege of Driving to the Beaches, my secret Hideaways and my Doctor who is thirty miles away, I would surrender My License and never sit on the Gray Leather of my second Love ever again. Every day she leaves the Driveway I have to drive like Jedi Pilot to bring her back Home in one piece. Four years old and still in showroom condition,  My goal is to pass my Verano down to my Son. Buick decided to discontinue one of the best Cars they ever made, being cost-effective. In my Neck of the Woods Tampa, Jackass Drivers Rules, eighteen to eighty eight, they all drive like Jackasses on their way to a Fire.